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5 Effective Phrases to Use in Your Adult Personal Ads
Posted by Jason X in Dating, Featured article, Latest, Mobile dating, PhoneShag on March 8, 2010
Online adult dating has now become one of the primary methods of hooking up. And one of the critical components of online dating success is having an effective personal ad that will
draw people in to make that connection. Below are some sample phrases that will help make your personal ads stand out so that you get more attention and ultimately, more hook-ups. Sure, there are phrases like “No strings attached” and “Feel free to ask me anything” that people tout as being effective because of upfront honesty and bluntness, but they certainly won’t make you stand out.
1. Will trade sex for beer
This immediately lets people know that you’re a whore, regardless of gender. Some people only fuck after they’ve had a few beers. But not you. You’ll fuck to get beer, then fuck again after you’ve tossed back a few. And you’re not exactly prostituting yourself, because you’re not exchanging sex for money, only beer. I’m no lawyer, but if I were, I’d advise you that no law has been broken under these circumstances.
The reason this is such an effective phrase is because nobody really wants to work that hard to get laid. Beer = sex. That’s a pretty straight forward calculation. You’ll be amazed by the attention you get from this simple but powerful phrase.
2. Low self-esteem
This works best for women. Men are always looking for women with low self-esteem because sex tends to promote self worth in that kind of woman, as perverse as that sounds, so it’s easier to get them into bed. You may even want to throw in bi-polar, manic depressive, and/or suicidal. Whether true or myth, psychotic women are the best in bed. You can say you’re great in bed all you want, but there’s no better way to convince a guy of it than making him believe you’re a psychotic bitch. Guys are drawn to psychotic bitches like bugs to a black light because even though they know they’re walking into a death trap, they know it’s going to be absolutely electrifying.
3. Into head games
Anyone who goes out of their way to say that they’re not into head games is probably into head games. So if you go out of your way to say that you are into head games, you’re probably not. Would a serial killer say he was into murder? Reverse psychology. Confuse people, draw them in, then hook them. Someone may ask, What kind of head games are you into? That’s a perfect time to fuck with that person’s head just to prove the point that you’re not really into head games. The more you fuck with people’s heads, the more they’ll realize you’re just fucking with them about being into head games. Either that, or you’ll get some real head cases trying to go out with you. Regardless, you’ll get laid.
4. I have a talking hot dog
I’m not exactly sure what this even means, but it’s going to get you attention, especially for the guys. I guarantee women are going to want to see your talking hot dog as soon as they hear you have one. In the end, your hot dog isn’t going to say jack shit. But it’s a pretty damn effective way of promoting your beef.
5. The only problem I have with gambling is that I can’t gamble enough
This statement lets everyone know that you’re a risk taker. You like living on the edge. So much so, you might have loan sharks hunting your ass down to break a leg or two. The point is, the phrase conveys the fact that you live an exciting lifestyle without having to say it. You want people to know you have vices, just nothing too detrimental. Well, unless those loan sharks catch up to you. But that’s the thrill of dating you. Danger. Excitement. Intrigue. Sure, maybe you’re in more debt than the average person, but you’re not boring. And it’s a much better vice than say, heroin for example. See how good you look now?
These are just a few examples of some effective phrases that will get you the attention you deserve in the world of online dating. Being bold doesn’t translate to being a douche. Telling people you’re “Cocky” or a “Bad boy” or “I’m amazing” just doesn’t get you anywhere in today’s online dating market. Be creative. Lead them to the conclusion you want them to arrive at, but don’t smother them with it.
Sexting Etiquette
Posted by Jason X in Dating, Erotica, Featured article, Latest, Mobile dating, PhoneShag, Seduction on February 16, 2010
The telephone was an incredible invention. But once we got over how revolutionary it was, we also realized what an
incredible annoyance it was. Because it forced us to communicate with friends and family whether we wanted to or not. Which is why text messaging has literally become our telecommunications savior.
We can ask or answer a question without being forced into an entire conversation. We can have quick, to-the-point conversations, and even multiple conversations with multiple people at once.
And now Phone sex also has its abbreviated and more convenient version delivered in the form of “sexting”.
“Sexting Etiquette” is sort of an oxymoron, but there are some do’s and don’ts to consider. Below is my list:
Do:
Sext drunk - People always say, don’t text drunk. But then TFLN would be lame. Besides, this is sexting. That’s like saying, don’t get drunk and have sex. That’s how we lose inhibitions and hook it up. We come up with our best material when we’re drunk off our asses.
Spell out dirty words – Spell out “cock” and “pussy”. It just doesn’t have the same effect abbreviated. Once I’ve 810 ur puC Im gonna 5FS d@ shit. No, not sexy and sometimes you spend more time trying to decipher the sext than actually getting off on it. And for the love of Jesus, Mary, and Joseph, lose the ” * ” in the dirty words. This isn’t Twitter. It’s your own private phone. If you type ” I want to f*ck you”, you might as well type, “I want to make love to you” which is something they say on The 700 Club. If you’re going to be dirty, be fucking dirty.
Be cautious – And consider what you have to lose if your sexting gets out. Remember Tiger? This shit has a way of making itself public. We don’t all have as much to lose as Tiger, but it’s still something to think about. I could tell you to wait until you trust the person, but you really can’t trust anyone. And sexting strangers is half the fun. Just be aware of what you’re doing and the risks associated with it. For example, ladies: no matter how much a man promises, your dirty pic will be sent to at least a half dozen dudes.
Don’t:
Sext Drunk – Yeah, I know I also put it on my “Do” list. It’s one of those things that can be both good and bad. For example, have you ever been drunk, started sexting one person and finished up sexting someone completely different? Hey, sometimes that works. Most times, the second person knows you fucked up. I’m just saying, the drunker you are, the more risk you run.
Be creepy – Make sure texting has mutually transitioned to sexting. Guys often fuck up this transition and jump the gun too early. If you tell her she’s cute and she likes it, that doesn’t mean she’s ready to hear how badly you want to throat fuck her. Even when you do successfully transition to dirty talk, that doesn’t mean she wants a cock pic. Sexting is sexy, but a cock pic can be a buzz kill for a lot of women. She’ll ask for one if she wants one.
Sext and drive – Even worse if you’re driving naked. Texting while driving is illegal in California; sexting is probably a felony. And it really sucks to crash your car with a boner or sopping wet panties.
Use retarted acronyms and smiley faces – You know, OMG or LOL. This is sex, not junior high. So if you have to use acronyms, use something dirty like SMG (Stick My Gash) or LML (Lick My Lollipop). And no smileys like : ) or ; ). If not a pic ladies, at least show us your tits with a (.)(.). If you’re not ready for a real cock pic, we’ll show you C==8 or 8==D~~
Sexting is great when you move past initial flirting because it helps solidify, for both of you, where this is all headed. I’ll tell you right now though, it’s not something you can sustain more than a couple of times without getting to the good stuff. Remember, sexting is just foreplay. Get to the main event soon after or you’ll lose the opportunity.
Dinner and Bondage at 8:00?
Posted by Jason X in Dating, Featured article, Latest, Mobile dating, PhoneShag on January 14, 2010
Maybe it’s time to branch out…
Online adult dating leads to all kinds of new adventures, including BDSM, which stands for Bondage and Discipline (BD), Dominance and Submission (DS), and Sadomasochism (SM). I’m not saying, get into it; I’m saying, have a little fun with it if you happen to run into it. This article is really for those who don’t know much about it but are at least a
little curious.
Not that I’m going to educate you on BDSM; I’m just going to tell you how to dabble. I’m assuming the terms above are understood by most.
So how do you date someone who’s into this fetish? You can easily find people with this fetish on PhoneShag. But right up front, determine who you’re dealing with–the dominant or submissive.
If you tend to be dominant, enslaving a submissive might be kind of fun. But if you’re dealing with a dominant/sadist, you might be letting them bite off more than you want them to chew.
I don’t let women tie me up, mainly because I never know who’s pissed off at me at any given time. The day I let a woman tie me to the coffee table might just be the day she found out I fucked her sister. Once you’re securely restrained, you’ve entered the Bobbitt Zone. Yeah, I shy away from restraints.
But if you’re cool with it, give it a shot.
But I suggest you start lite. Go to dinner first and practice over a meal. If they’re submissive, ask them what kind of food they despise, then order it for them. Make them clean their plate. Then ask yourself, Did I enjoy that? If you got a chubby or a little wet, maybe it’s time to throw your date into the trunk of your car and take him/her home for some real discipline.
If you have dinner with a sadist, ask them to dominate the meal. So for example, they might not let you order any food and force you to watch them eat while you and your stomach both growl loudly at the bitch. Feeling some anger? You think lack of food is bad, imagine being denied an orgasm. But if that makes it all the more tantalizing for you, then go whole nine.
My point is, ease into it. Test the waters first.
If you move forward with it, there are some terms you should know:
Safe Word/Phrase: a word or phrase the Submissive says when the painful pleasure becomes just plain pain and the Sub wants the Dom to stop. Words/phrases like, “Gratitude” or “Shag carpet” or “That fucking hurts like hell”. I’d use something like “Don’t stop” just to be ironic. Of course, I’m sure I wouldn’t get the last laugh.
Black Snake: Ladies: if you likes black guys and you find one who’s into BDSM and he says that’s he’s pulling out the “Black Snake”, it ain’t what you think it is. It’s a type of single-lash whip that is flexible all the way to the knob.
Boundaries: Refers to limits. Make sure you negotiate this prior to BDSM play, otherwise you might become the Hannibal Lecter plate.
Chudwa: You will most likely be called this. It means Clueless, Horny, Dominant Wannabe. It’s like being called a dipshit. Don’t be offended; just beat the living shit out of the Sub. Don’t worry, they’ll enjoy it.
CBT: Guys: If someone asks you if you want a little CBT, it’s time to get the fuck out. This doesn’t mean “Computer Based Training” for you nerds out there. It means Cock and Ball Torture. Yeah, I didn’t think you were interested.
Tampon Training: Rectal insertion of tampons by male submissives to empathize with the female menstrual cycle. This is probably preceded with anal fisting, just to ensure there’s sufficient blood flow–you know, so that you can really empathize.
Vampire Glove: Guys: pass on the handjob if she pulls these gloves out. They’re thin leather driving gloves that have sharp, metal tines or tacks lining the palms. Enough said.
Even more BDSM terms HERE. Impress your date with how much you know about their fetish. Like anyone else you’re trying to get into the sack, feign extreme interest, otherwise you might not score. They take their fetish seriously, and so must you (or at least pretend to).
It’s a new year, so branch out and try new things. There’s a whole world of BDSM waiting for you. Just know, when you get your ass in a sling, you’re supposed to like it.
PhoneShag Nominated for Dating Program of the Year
Posted by Jason X in Dating, Featured article, Latest, Mobile dating, PhoneShag on December 22, 2009
The final nominees for the 2010 XBIZ Awards, the adult entertainment industry’s biggest business awards show, have been announced and PhoneShag has been nominated for “Dating Program of the Year”.
There’s something about the adult entertainment industry that makes me smile. Is it the tits? The ass? The hot animal sex? (Meaning “wild”, not actual bestiality)… No, not really. I actually watch porn for the articles, so maybe it’s just the quality writing that brings a smile to my face. All that other stuff just gives me a boner.
As indicated in the xbiz.com article, “The XBIZ Awards are a symbol of excellence dedicated to honoring the most influential companies and performers who play an essential role in the growth and popularity of adult entertainment around the globe.”
In addition, “XBIZ received a record 2,365 preliminary nomination submissions from the adult entertainment community, with the official nominee list encompassing the Web & Tech, Movies & Production and Novelty & Retail awards categories to be presented at the show.”
The competition was intense and certainly demonstrates PhoneShag’s popularity and influence within the mobile/online adult dating space.
If the adult entertainment community takes notice of your site, there has to be a lot of people getting laid by using that site. PhoneShag is here to be used and abused for that very reason. And it doesn’t disappoint.
The best part is that it’s free.
Congratulations PhoneShag, for being one of the best…
Why Zombies Don’t Date
Posted by Jason X in Dating, Featured article, Latest, Mobile dating, Seduction on November 17, 2009
I suppose the main reason zombies don’t date is because they don’t fuck.
Dead dicks don’t fuck and neither do dried-up pussies. That’s just one of the facts of life. Zombies don’t fuck so zombies don’t date.
Whether you’re male of female, we’re all just trying to get laid. Sure, some people want to throw emotions and commitment into the exchange, but sex is what drives us all. Except for zombies. Hunger for human flesh drives zombies.
There are other reasons zombies can’t hack the dating scene. Take note, because there are a lot of non-zombies out there dating who act like zombies. And just like zombies, they’re not getting laid either.
Poor Conversation Skills
Zombies don’t talk so well anymore. Once you’re dead and rigamortis sets in, your lips and jaw tighten up and then conversation mostly consists of some grunts and groans. Kind of like those dates with people who are alive but only respond with Uh-huhs and Mm-huhs and don’t really initiate dialogue. These dates aren’t dead, but after a while you do want to kill them.
Picky Eaters
Try having dinner with a zombie at a nice restaurant. Picky sons-of-bitches. Typically, you’re not going to find internal organs on the menu, let alone, human internal organs. Try some veal. That shit’s delicious. You might find some cow tongue that you can tell the chef to cook rare. Nope, not good enough. A zombie would rather eat the fucking chef.
It’s just like the Earthy, flip-flops-on-the-first-date-vegan who can’t eat a goddamn thing on the menu. If you’re that difficult when it comes to eating, how difficult are you going to be in other aspects of your life? More importantly, how difficult is it going to be to get into your pants? Good luck getting a second date.
Poor Personal Grooming
Do you think anyone wants to be seen in public with someone who’s missing teeth, or worse, half of their jaw? Or someone who hasn’t changed their bloody shirt in 10 days? Zombies are the worst when it comes to fashion. Sure, everyone should cultivate their own style, but no style is not a style.
Clean up a little before you go out. Brush those teeth (the ones you have left), take a breath mint. Wear something that shows you give a shit and actually do want to get laid, zombie or not.
Oblivious to Seduction
Sometimes there’s nothing worse than someone who ignores your advances. And zombies really suck in this area. Again, the point of this date is to eventually fuck. Whether it’s that night or down the road, the least you can do is give the other person a show of good faith.
It’s one thing if you don’t like your date. It’s another if you do, but you want to take it a little slower. Fine, but make sure you let the other person know you want to fuck them, and you will fuck them, it just might not tonight.
You think a zombie ever gives you the slightest indication you’ll be getting some? No fucking way. They just stare at you with that dopey look on their faces like they’ve never heard of fucking before. Unless you died a virgin, you know what sex is like. So don’t act like you don’t know where this is headed. Otherwise, it appears like you don’t have interest and again, good luck getting a second date.
Conclusion
As mentioned before in a previous post, meeting online makes it easier for people to flirt and be more open sexually than if they meet for the first time face-to-face. Just don’t suddenly become a zombie when you do finally meet face-to-face. The reason the person wants to go out with you is because of the way you behaved online. Be the same in person; be bold. And don’t use the old bait and switch on them or you most likely won’t get a second chance.
Online Socializing Leads to Offline Sex
Posted by Jason X in Dating, Featured article, Latest, Mobile dating, PhoneShag on November 11, 2009
Remember when you had to go to a bar and pick up someone in order to get laid? According to a new mobile dating survey conducted by Intelitech Inc, the creators of PhoneShag, 70.4-percent surveyed have known someone that took online interaction offline and met their date in person. How many of these people actually fucked, they didn’t say.
But the survey also found that online socializing may make it easier for singles to express themselves sexually. Nearly 3 out of 4 (71.5-percent) respondents said that they flirt more often using online dating or social networking sites than they flirt when face-to-face.
The point is, while the bar scene may be fun, is it as effective getting you laid these days as online socializing?
I think two of the most difficult obstacles of getting laid at a bar are fear of rejection and lack of selection.
Fear of Rejection
Bar: For men, it’s not often you find a hot woman standing alone. She’s usually standing with her friends, which means you need to walk up to the group and basically audition for all of them. More often than not, women are at the bar with their friends to socialize with each other, not with wolves like you. So you get shot down by all of them, not just the person you approached. It becomes humiliating.
For women, it’s equally difficult. You don’t want to be perceived as a slut, so you stay reserved and hold back. There are things you want to do, things you want to say, but you also fear the entire bar surrounding you because you now look like everyone’s sure thing.
Online: There’s nobody in between you and the person you want to get to know. And guess what? They’re online for the exact same reason you are. So if they’re interested in you, they’ll let you know. And there’s no reason to hold back. You’re on a fucking computer, for god sake. If you suddenly decide you’ve made a big mistake, you’re not trapped in a corner of the bar with someone who won’t take “no” for an answer at this point… You’re online and you can eliminate that creep with one click of the mouse.
Lack of Selection
Bar: Guys, how many times have you gone to a bar and realized you were at a sausage fest? And the only two girls in the entire place were already surrounded by vulchers? Ladies, how many times have you gone to a bar and realized you were at a cheese ball convention? And all you heard all night long were dumbass lines like “Great legs, what time to they open?”
In addition, you know nothing about the person you approach at the bar other than what they look like. Are they divorced with children? You’re a white guy and she’s only into black guys. Or maybe he’s a chubby chaser and you’re just too damn skinny.
Online: The selection can sometimes be endless. You get photos, information about the person, their likes and dislikes, who they’re looking for and what they’re into. Granted, people can lie about their profile, but I’d say most of the time when it comes to a person’s preferences, they’re going to tell you exactly what they want and what they don’t want.
Bars are fun, especially if you like rejection and spotty selection. Online is the new Studio 54; plenty of decadence and bold interaction without the police raids. If you’re not already socializing online, I suggest you get going now and increase your action offline.
How To Be An Effective Online Slut
Posted by Jason X in Dating, Erotica, Featured article, Latest, Mobile dating, PhoneShag, Seduction on November 3, 2009
There’s no better place than online to enjoy being a slut without having to deal with the traditional castigation from friends and co-workers.
For example, there’s nothing worse for a woman than being known as the Office Slut at work. And it doesn’t take much to become one. All you really have to do is blow two guys in the same department. Once you’re labeled the Office Slut, you’re stuck with it until you leave the company.
All a girl wants to do is have a little fun like the boys, but instead she gets the shaft. Twice, in this example. And while that may have been the original intent, the real result is not nearly as pleasant as it should be in the workplace.
But when you’re online, you can slut it up like there’s no tomorrow without getting those judgmental stares at the water cooler every day. In fact, it’s a whole new ball game. Old stigmas no longer apply. Here are some tips on being a more effective online slut:
Quality photography
Put a little effort into the dirty pix you post. Flash photography on genitals makes the prettiest pussy look sour. Black and white, higher contrast, lower brightness. Play with it first (the photo), then post. Whether the photo is raw Hustler dirty or only Maxim tantalizing, make sure it doesn’t paint you as a trailer trash slut who’s looking to spread more than just her legs.
Interests
You should always include “bi-sexual” whether you go both ways or not. Because that drives men crazy with lust. Include some random fetishes, like eyeball licking and panty sniffing. The more you love sex, the less desperate you seem. You’re in it for the fun, not the fuck alone.
Relationship Status
Being “Single” is just not slutty enough. Make it something like “It’s Complicated” even if you are single. Guys are really attracted to women who aren’t in a happy relationship or who want to fuck outside an existing relationship. It’s a challenge. It’s dangerous. It’s dirty. And then, if at the last minute you change your mind, you can just say, “I can’t do this to him.” And you’re out of there.
Quantity first, then quality
Since there are no ramifications from flirting like a two-bit hooker online, just do it. Draw in as many as you can, then you can be as picky as you want. Just because you’re going to be an online slut, doesn’t mean you have to fuck everyone. Round up enough candidates so that you can pick the cream of the crop. Then be as slutty as you want.
The Drive-By
People can share pix, but you never really know what you’re going to get until you meet them face-to-face. So I recommend the “Drive-By” once you’ve decided to meet up with someone. Either agree to do a slow drive by with the other person to confirm it’s a go, or have them meet you at a place like Starbucks and tell them to sit outside. If it’s the old bait n’ switch, just keep driving.
Mobile and online dating have provided a new way for women to be slutty without being known as “the slut”. So take advantage. You want to be dirty, be dirty. You still control the game. Be effective, but feel free to be the slut you always wanted to be without the negative connotation or reputation that used to go along with slutting it up.
Ghouls, Sluts and Perverts
Posted by Jason X in Dating, Featured article, Mobile dating, PhoneShag, Seduction on October 26, 2009
Halloween not only brings out the ghouls, but also the sluts and perverts. In all of us.
This is the one night a year that ALL women have the license to dress slutty, but not be perceived as a slut. Because if ALL women are doing it, there’s nothing slutty about it. Halloween normalizes dressing and looking like a slut.
So every girl’s costume is essentially the same: slutty [insert costume].
For guys, this is our opportunity to blatantly unleash the pervert inside and not get arrested or sent to Human Resources for it.
The more obvious choice is to dress as a flasher, wearing a raincoat, boots and boxers with a large plastic dildo hanging out the fly. The guy gets to go around flashing and shocking women, but not offending them. After the initial startle, women laugh and giggle instead of scream for the police.
A less obvious choice, but still very telling, is when a guy dresses like a woman. The makeup, the wig, the dress. For whatever reason, ALL men have a perverted curiosity about cross-dressing. And Halloween is our opportunity to explore that curiosity without anyone questioning our man card.
So keep this in mind: since looking like sluts and perverts is universally accepted during the Halloween season, slutty and perverted behavior is also more widely accepted.
For guys, this means you can get more pussy. For women, this means that a random hook-up is not only accepted by the guys that find out about it, but also by your catty friends who tend to judge that sort of behavior. Because they’re doing it too.
Adult dating is at its best in and around Halloween. Don’t just look slutty; be slutty. Don’t just look perverted; act like you’re trying to get arrested. Because this is the safest and most acceptable time to come out of your shell and get dirty. Like you know you want to…
Enjoy this unique opportunity the Halloween season presents and get yourself laid.
Adult dating: naked photo or not?
Posted by Scott Demyon in Dating, Featured article, Latest, Mobile dating, PhoneShag on September 30, 2009
Some people do, some people don’t. So when it comes to putting your photo online, should you go naked or not? On an adult dating site, people tend to be just looking for one thing… But are you helping get what you want with a naked photo? The answer is yes… and no.
There’s more psychology involved in this than you would think. It comes down, as many things do, to the difference between guys and gals. It also comes down to the individual and how “out there” they are with their sexuality.
For guys, who are much more visually stimulated, a naked image girl is a pretty quick way to get him turned on. So as a rule, a naked photo of a girl is going to get you more attention. No argument there.
But there’s another way to look at it. Think of it like Christmas. If you know exactly what you’re gonna get for Christmas, are you going to get the same excitement when you finally unwrap your goodies?! Men enjoy the thrill of the chase and the build up. So if girls don’t want to put it all out there immediately, a suggestive shot, even a mild cleavage shot can turn a guy on while keeping the thrill of the chase intact.
For girls, there is a pretty clear split in what they find attractive in a guy. Let’s face it, God didn’t make male genitalia with beauty in mind!! So just a photo of male genitalia won’t turn on a good proportion of women on and can actively turn off a lot of women.
When you ask women what first attracts them to a guy, you’ll get a huge range of answers. For some it’s a nice smile, for others still it could be kind eyes or a smart suit, and yes for some it could be a big c*ck. Maybe you’re lucky and you have a nice smile, kind eyes, a smart suit AND a big c*ck! The point is, if all a girl has to go on is male genitalia, you’re not necessarily putting your best foot (or other appendage) forward.
Hey sexy!
Posted by Scott Demyon in Dating, Latest, Mobile dating, PhoneShag on August 27, 2009
How are you doing? Welcome to Adult Free Personals!
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